I love reviewing books, and in the past, MyPleasure gave me the chance to review a book by Dr. Sadie Allison. If you remember that review, I liked it a lot. When I saw this book, I was definitely curious to try it. After all, who doesn’t like learning more sex positions?
Ride ‘Em Cowgirl was not at all what I expected, though. When it arrived, it had the same small easy to read style of print. It had a brightly colored cover. It reminded me a lot of Tickle His Pickle from the outside, but once I got in, I didn’t feel like it was quite the same fun ride as the other book.
For starters, this book isn’t aimed at me at all. It is aimed at couples who are are in a sex rut, or absolute beginners. The entire first couple of chapters talk about some things which are very important, but I disliked a lot of the ways that Dr. Sadie went about saying them.
For example, the book has a huge hetero slant, (which makes sense, given the title) and while there are sections just for the guys to read, much of the book is geared towards females, and insists that most of the “bad sex” you’re having is because your guy is lazy. She talks an awful lot about how guys are supposed to spend more time on their (female) partners. How as a woman, you need to stand up and speak out for the foreplay which you need. I do not think that is a bad thing per se. Couples need to talk in order to be able to have good sex. However, there is a whole lot of blame that the guy takes, while Dr. Sadie essentially tells females that they need to just relax and enjoy what their man does. While I do think that women deserve to feel pleasure, and they don’t have to be active 100% of the time, I think it is ultimately up to both parties to ensure that everyone is having a good time. Not just the men. Once I got past the first couple of chapters, I found the book to be a lot more fun (though, still with digs and jabs at men here and there over their “laziness”.
There are several chapters in the book, and all of them are simple and easy to read. The book uses drawings to show you how to vary positions you already know, and make them more interesting. For example, how to change around missionary or spooning positions to make them a little bit different without a lot of work.
The book covers a wide variety of topics including sex toys, sex furniture, the He spot, the G-spot, the clitoris, anal sex, sex for larger men and women, fantasies, what positions work best for different types of genitals, safety information, and having sex in other locations.
My only other major gripe with this book is how Dr. Sadie seems to go on and on about how most women cannot reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation. This bothered me because, while I am one of those women who can’t cum without clit stimulation, I also know more women than not who don’t need or who don’t like clitoral play. There are many, many reasons for a woman being unable to cum, and I wish Dr. Sadie had pointed out that some women can only cum from internal stimulation, some women prefer backdoor sessions, and some women cum in many other different ways.
I really loved how she talked about pegging, and the He-Spot (also known as the P-spot). Dr. Sadie shows women how to pleasure your guy’s backdoor with friendly pictures, and with lots of great techniques, even if your guy does not want to be penetrated. As always, you’re best off to talk with you guy to find out what he likes and wants, but if you’ve never given anyone any anal stimulation, this chapter will really help shake away your jitters and show you how to go about it and keep both of you comfortable.
There are lots of cool little things in this book, to go along with the things which also irk me. I think that this is a good book for those new to sex in general, but I think if you’re past the basics then you should probably pass this one up. There are lots of other sex position books out there that spend more time on sex positions, and less time on teaching you how to get from point A to point B. I’m giving this one three paws.Thank you so much, MyPleasure, for allowing me the chance to try out this book in exchange for a fair and honest review.