Working On Fears

driving 2

I think the last time I wrote about my fear of driving, it was a year or so ago. Where am I with that, now? Eh. About the same place, to be honest.

Master and me were relaxing on Saturday and enjoying ourselves. We realized we’d need to go to the store to pick up one item we forgot the other day. Out of nowhere Master asked me if I wanted to drive. I hesitated. He hadn’t told me to, he had asked me what I wanted. What I wanted was not to drive. I told him so. He told me that if I did drive, we could drive to Whole Foods and he’d let me pick out one special thing as a treat. He told me it didn’t have to be food. Just one special thing. I hesitated, still. I really did not want to drive. Master told me he would have Sumomo set up to avoid highways.

Treat. Fewer highways. Driving. I sighed and reluctantly agreed. I know this is something I absolutely have to conquer. I know I cannot let this fear fester inside me forever. I need to gain my confidence back when I’m driving, and I need to do it in this lifetime. I grabbed my fleece vest and we went down to the car. I got inside and we took a picture, for proof that I actually drove, you know. Master had told me ahead of time that the only thing he expected of me was that I would make it there, he would drive us home. I took a deep breath, moved my mirrors around, and slowly backed out of the lot. Master kept a hand on my knee most of the time which was very calming.

We made it around the block exactly once before I got scared out of my mind, and pulled over to cry. Smooth, huh?

Master told me we could switch places, and I didn’t have to drive if I didn’t want to. He said there would be no treat (obviously), but he’d drive us to get the item we needed. At first, I wanted to switch places and just sulk in the passenger seat. It would be a lot easier than facing this scary, scary thing. I am so grateful that Master hasn’t pushed me into this whole driving thing. He has been very kind and gentle with me, and I think if it weren’t for that, I wouldn’t be able to make the small strides I’ve been making. I told Master that, no, I thought I could do it, and I wanted to try again.

I took another deep breath, and I pulled out of the spot.

According to the GPS, it should have taken us a total of 25 minutes to get to Whole Foods. It took us forty five between my white-knuckled terror, and the crying episode over on the side of the road, but, I did make it. The entire time I was driving I just wished it would be over. It was awful. Master bought me a gluten free coconut chocolate brownie. I eat gluten, so I’m not a Celiac, but there’s so many nommy gluten-free things that sometimes I do eat non-gluten stuff. Master was curious to try it too, and he liked it, which shocked me. I spent the drive home feeding Master bites when he told me to, and trying to calm my frazzled nerves. I didn’t want to ever drive again. :/ I was just not in the best of spirits. Driving down really took a lot out of me, and it wasn’t something I relished. Still, I have to admit, this is a huge step for me.

Master told me that any time I want to drive him down to Whole Foods he will get me a treat from there. Any time. Maybe I’ll try again next week.. But as I’m feeling right now? I’d rather not.

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11 thoughts on “Working On Fears

  1. aww Kitty you did SO well! You should be super proud of yourself, I’m really proud of you! And I hope that brownie tasted extra good!

  2. A little at a time is the best way to work out a fear. *HUGS*
    proud of you, yes yes yes

    • @fyremane Aww, thanks. It was VERY hard for me. I will try again soon, I know it. I hated it, but I know that means I need to try harder.

  3. Aww, I am glad you made it that far! I am yet to learn how to drive (I am 26). Master used to drive in the U.S.A before his eyes got to bad. I am thinking of learning how to as it would make life easier for us. But I am just to scared to even take the learners test! I think I will learn one day … And gluten free treats are awesome! Freedom foods make awesome baked goodies. Master is not a Celiac but I am and he now buys my cookies that I eat from Freedom foods because they taste better than the normal ones :) Being a Celiac is not so bad when you find the right brands of food to buy! Some of the pre-made stuff is awesome :)

    • I’m not sure if you have Freedom Foods in the U.S.A as we are in Australia (Master is American). But you should be able to find them

  4. I’m so proud of you! I think being able to drive is such an important skill. My fiance never learned to drive… but I made a condition of him moving in with me was that he had to at least try to learn. He’d had his learner’s permit for years but only ever tried driving once.

    It took him more than a year to learn, but he finally did it. Take it slow. Work your way up. Tears are OK. You can do it! There’s no time limit. At some point, the fear will be replaced by confidence. I told him as much and he didn’t believe me. Then one day something happened and… it came together. I’m sure it will happen for you, too. Proud of you for trying! That takes so much effort and it will pay off.

    • @BiLikesSciFi Thanks for the encouragement. I used to love to drive, but after a couple car accidents (neither of which were our fault) it has been tough getting my driving confidence back. :( I really do hope to get back there again someday. =^^=

  5. Yay Kitty! You should be proud of yourself! One day I feel that you will be actually wanting to do this again. Kitten steps…..then leaps to follow.