Ablation

Anemia has been rough on me, especially because it is exacerbated by having POTS.  I have been dealing the best I can, and have found that massive amounts of caffeine (read: over six cups of green or black tea per day, when I usually drink none) is needed to get through my day, and I still have nothing in me once I get to about eight o’clock at night.

In the past, a friend of mine mentioned ablation to me, and I didn’t like the sound of it.  (It sounded scary!)  I had heavy periods, but honestly, I didn’t realize that could be a problem (as in, a serious problem.  Yes, it was terribly inconvenient, but I didn’t think it was all that big a deal), and it really never was until recently anyway.  So, another friend recently mentioned ablation to me, and I wondered why my Dr didn’t bring it up with me.  Master decided we should go back in and talk to my Dr again.

Lo and behold, she didn’t bring it up with me, because:

“You’re a little too young to get an ablation.”

And, it was kind of funny, because, for a minute I felt like I was a kid trying to explain to their Mom why I really, really needed this.  I pointed out that I knew I didn’t want to have children, and she pointed out that, people change their mind.  (Never mind that I have known since I was a child that I didn’t want children.)  So, I pulled out the point I was planning to make if she didn’t want to refer me to a Gyno.

“My husband has already had a vasectomy, so we can’t have children anyway.”

That was really all she needed to hear, and she told me that, I was right, and if I didn’t want to try (ANOTHER) hormonal birth control pill, that she would send me (with her blessing) to a Gyno to discuss the ablation.  It still sounds scary to me, and I know there is a bit of healing time involved with it, but honestly, if my choices are to be on hormonal birth control for the rest of my life, or to have this minor medical procedure, then Master and me both agree that the minor medical procedure is the way to go.  We could not be more relieved about the whole thing.  So, Master is going to call the Gyno on Monday and see when he can get me in to have this thing done.  Hopefully sooner rather than later.

10 thoughts on “Ablation

  1. Ugh man, I hate when doctors give you that condescending tone and think you’re gunna automagically change your mind about children, especially when one [or more!] partners have gotten medical procedures to prevent that. *sigh* I hope your ablation goes well my friend. xo

    • @Kitty Thanks, yeah, she seemed more concerned than condescending. Luckily, she really wanted to make sure that not having kids wouldn’t be a problem for me. You can get pregnant after you have an ablation, it’s just really dangerous. But, I have dealt with all sorts of condescending doctors in the past, so I know what that’s all about. Thanks for the well wishes though. :)

  2. I really hope you can get the ablation, if its what you really want then I don’t know why Dr’s argue about those type of things. I know a few friends who don’t want kids and I completely understand why they don’t. My view on children is ‘if they happen, they happen.’ I’m not going to organise my life around kids, sure I will take responsibility but I’m not going to go out of my way to plan them. I get people telling us all the time that we should plan it but I just turn around and say; ‘you should be prepared for them if your having sex anyway.’ A Dr really shouldn’t have that kind of control, it should be your decision. I really hope it all goes well for you and you get better soon!

    • @MomoNoHanna Well, the reason is that she wanted to be sure I wouldn’t change my mind. I’m young, and most women my age haven’t decided for sure that they do not want kids. I have known my entire life (since I was young) that I didn’t want children. The big issue is that, if I get the ablation, I could still get pregnant, but it would be incredibly dangerous and would risk either my life or the baby’s, so I do understand her hesitancy.

      On the other hand, I need to live life with the best chance I can get at health, so, the ablation seems like the best option for me. Hormonal birth control just never works out in my favor. Thanks for the good thoughts. :)

      • I really do hope it all goes well, I am a little biased when it comes to Doctors. I really don’t like them but thats a long story. Good luck Kitty and lots of hugs :)

        • @MomoNoHanna I don’t blame you for hating doctors. I have had a lot of bad experiences with doctors so I can empathize big time. ::hugs::

  3. As a fellow CF person I totally empathize. Good luck getting approval for this procedure if it will help you! It may also help with your low iron counts to not have a period.